The Martha Stewart Center for Living Gala
Last Wednesday, I attended a really wonderful gala held at the beautiful Pierre Hotel in New York City. It was actually a fundraiser benefiting the Martha Stewart Center for Living at Mount Sinai Hospital. This amazing facility is devoted to promote healthy and independent living in the elderly population, and you may recall that I dedicated the Center to my beloved, late mother, ‘Big Martha.’ In fact, at the podium that evening, I made a toast to my mother and also showed a video clip of her appearances on my show throughout the years.
There were other interesting speakers, including Gail Sheehy, the writer and lecturer, most notable for her books on life and the life cycle. There was also a silent auction of really fun items and services so very generously donated. Even the bonsai centerpieces were auctioned off at the end of the evening. The bonsai is the symbol of the Center and the centerpieces were donated by the Shanti Bithi Nursery, located in Stamford, Connecticut.   I am very proud of this Center for Living and would like to thank everyone for all that they have given to help make this place a success.
For a video, including clips of 'Big Martha' and more information on the Martha Stewart Center For Living Visit Here
My Speech
Martha Stewart
Center for Living Gala--Remarks
November 5, 2008
Thank you, Gail [Gail Sheehy].
And thank you all for joining us here this evening.
I am great admirer of the living art of bonsai, which refers to the training of a regular plant to grow on a tray in miniature, mimicking the shape of a larger tree.
Bonsai is an ancient art first conceived in China, where it became popular by the beginning of the 9th century. A Chinese diplomat introduced the practice of putting “trees in pots†in Japan where it was quickly embraced and became a very precise art form.
Part of the beauty of a bonsai is that, unlike a painting or a sculpture, it is a work of art that is never finished. As the American bonsai artist Jack Douthitt observed, it continues to grow and evolve over time.
This makes the bonsai a fitting symbol for the Center for Living. Indeed, the tiny potted plant with graceful gnarled trunk and leaning boughs embodies our feelings about aging. When properly tended, bonsai can thrive and flourish, growing even more interesting and appealing with age. It’s worth noting that the older ones are often the most desirable.
The Center is dedicated to my mother, Martha Kostyra or Big Martha, as my family called her. Mom passed away nearly one year ago at the age of 93. She had lived a full and productive life and was in good health almost until she died.
Like bonsai, my mother became more interesting with age. Once she was free of the everyday demands of raising six children, she had the time to pursue her own interests and develop new ones. She read The New York Times everyday, enjoyed traveling and drove her friends around town to all their appointments.
Mom was an incredible inspiration to me. Though she can’t be here with us tonight, I’d like to share with you a tribute video that captures something of her intelligence, her sense of humor and her passion for living.
I learned so much from my mother. She taught me about the importance of home and history and family and tradition. She also taught me that growing older need not mean narrowing the scope of your activities and interests or a diminution of the great pleasures to be had in the everyday. In fact, the very opposite was true for her! These valuable lessons are very much in keeping with the center’s mission.
The center is not about aging. It’s about living—living gracefully and healthfully with energy and enthusiasm even as we grow older.
How do we accomplish that? That is, in part, up to each one of us.
In her autobiography, A Backward Glance, the great American novelist Edith Wharton wrote, “One can remain alive long past the usual date of disintegration if one is unafraid of change, insatiable in intellectual curiosity, interested in big things, and happy in small ways.â€
I heartily agree with Mrs. Wharton’s prescription for longevity. My own motto is, “When you’re through changing, you’re through.â€
But older Americans, like bonsai, require special care. That’s where the Center for Living comes in. The best way to understand the Center and its mission is to see it and to speak to our extraordinary staff and our doctors. Since I can’t take you all on a tour of our beautiful facility, I’ve brought along a video we made when the Center first opened a year ago.
With the Center for Living, we hope to accomplish great things.
We hope to help the older members of our society remain nimble in mind, body and spirit.
We hope to encourage their continued involvement in activities they enjoy. And we hope to support them as they discover new and interesting pursuits so that they may continue to learn and, as important, to teach. We have much to learn from them!
An active mind, a healthy body and a passion for living—these are the values at the very core of my life and my work. And they are the underlying mission of the center: to provide the finest medical care along with alternative solutions to ensure that we remain strong and vibrant even as we age.
I thank you all for joining us in this mission.
My friend, the late and great actor Paul Newman, once said, “I just happen to think that in life we need to be a little like the farmer, who puts back into the soil what he takes out.†Tonight, all of you have helped to nourish the soil for those who cared for us when were young and for future generations who will help care for us when we are old. Together, we can make a profound and lasting difference in the lives of older Americans and their families. Thank you!







You are glowing in this picture.
What a lovely way to honor your Mother. I can't tell you how much I enjoyed watching her over the years.
Linda
Posted by: Linda Crispell | November 11th, 2008 at 8:17 pm
It looks like a wonderful occasion---good health and healthy living are always worthy of celebration!
Posted by: MMC in San Diego | November 11th, 2008 at 8:24 pm
A magical night, indeed.
Posted by: Isle Dance | November 11th, 2008 at 9:12 pm
Martha!
Looking stylish and graceful as always.
God Bless
Rowaida Flayhan
Posted by: Rowaida Flayhan | November 12th, 2008 at 12:09 am
It certainly looked like the gala was a successful fundraiser! Everyone looked as if they were having a great time. Thank you, as always, for sharing your pictures. I have to admit, I couldn't help but chuckle at your pictures of...well...your pictures. Just the humor in it. I think your skill in photography is wonderful! When are we going to see a book, hmm?
Fundraising and charity galas are so much fun. I'll be attending a gala/auction here in Columbia, SC next week called "The Festival of Trees." (I've provided a website if you're interested.) People from all over donate decorated trees, wreaths, garland, centerpieces and table displays for auction to help fundraise for a local children's hospital. The event is always fun, and of course being surrounded by all kinds of holiday decorations -- from quirky to celestial -- you can't help but get into the Christmas spirit!
Posted by: Kim Wylie | November 12th, 2008 at 1:29 am
Martha, I read your blog everyday - every word and look at every picture! I look forward to it each morning before everyone gets out of bed and then, alas, bedlam begins!! If you aren't going to wear that beautiful outfit again, would you send it to me. My daughter wants me to attend her holiday party with her this year, and I have nothing to wear. Better yet, could you send her a good man. She can't seem to find one here in Georgia!
Posted by: Susie | November 12th, 2008 at 1:46 am
I was hoping as a viewer and subscriber to Living and Everyday Food if you would consider showing clips of Big Martha from the presentation from this event. It would be a nice Thanksgiving or Christmas treat. I can not believe it has been a year. I miss her.
Posted by: Teresa Touey | November 12th, 2008 at 3:57 am
Martha,
The menu, with explanations, was fantastic. I made it "life size" and took little notes. My shopping list for today is now altered to include artichokes and pineapple, as I've already planned salmon for dinner for my husband and me! Just thinking about my own bone density this AM, before reading your blog, as, at 59 (same birth day as Chevy Chase, Oct.8th!),these issues "creep" up!
Kate
Posted by: Kate Meade | November 12th, 2008 at 4:22 am
Martha, it is wonderful that you are speaking up for the elderly community. Life does not stop just because of your age and you are reminding people about that. We can all learn a great deal from our elders. It is great that you are focusing on their importance in our community = )
Posted by: sushi2 | November 12th, 2008 at 4:45 am
Martha,
The Martha Stewart Center For Living is your best work. We are not a culture that properly respects our elders ( sp, gerentocracy?) but we should be. I hope you can make a big difference. I believe you will...you already have! No wrinkles - no wisdom!
Posted by: tinay | November 12th, 2008 at 4:49 am
You SHOULD be proud, Martha. The Center for Living is a beautiful idea and the bonsai is the perfect symbol. The auction looked like a lot of fun. I would gone for the private tour of your gardens or your pumpkin photo. Beautiful!
-Andrew
Posted by: Andrew Ritchie | November 12th, 2008 at 5:01 am
Thank you for including your wonderful speech. The center makes me think about your mom in her little hard hat before construction started. What a great lady she was! I can almost see her smiling at the success of The Martha Stewart Center for Living.
There certainly were some very nice things donated for the silent auction. I envy the ones who get to see your garden or your show!
Also, you looked very nice in your silver and gold outfit. Is it one of Isaac's? Trish
Posted by: Trish | November 12th, 2008 at 6:24 am
a lovely sentiment, a center for 'living' rather than 'aging'. and a beautiful quote by paul newman regarding giving back to the soil, paying homage to our roots. what a wonderful evening! the bonsai has been a guiding metaphor for my small business, a rich symbol indeed.
i've admired your work for many years and know i am in good company. thank you for your concern with how things are made, to meticulous design and to nurturing the home.
Posted by: tyler | November 12th, 2008 at 6:30 am
Hi Martha, This is by far your most fantastic, informative and inspiring blog. Your speech was absolutely grand and your photos were the best. I spent about an hour reading your speech and enjoying all of your photos and videos. My favorites were the ones of you {you look absolutely stunning!}, Jane Heller, Alexis, the video of "Big Martha", etc., etc., etc. What a fabulous event for a wonderful place that you dedicated to your beautiful Mother. The only thing missing is her presence, but I'm sure she was there in spirit. The auction items were absolutely great. I would love to have the personal tour of your gardens, the Lucinda cooking class and Chef Pierre cooking for me. The bonsai are absolutely beautiful and a perfect auction item for this gala event. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for sharing this event with us. Jan
Posted by: Jan Erickson | November 12th, 2008 at 8:53 am
Martha,
Thank you for sharing this with your readers. I am watching my Grandmother struggle with diabetes and stroke at the age of 83 and it has been very hard for me and of course, for her. I remember my Grandmother's vibrant, active way of living and seeing her become dependent on others overnight has been very difficult. Your words put aging in a new perspective for me. Thank you.
Posted by: Hollie McTiernan | November 12th, 2008 at 9:40 am
The center is an incredible tribute to your mother and I think she would be proud. She was an amazing woman and I enjoyed seeing her on your show. Your speech is also a touching tribute. Thanks for sharing it.
Posted by: MarthaAndMe | November 12th, 2008 at 9:45 am
Love the Bonsai theme throughout the party. The center pieces are incredible!! We had bonsai trees at home when I was young too... except I don't remember how to take care of them. What a beautiful celebration for a very worthwhile cause.
Posted by: ShopLittleGifts | November 12th, 2008 at 11:57 am
I always enjoyed watching your Mom's appearances on your TV shows: she reminded me very much of my own Mother and Grandmothers. I can't think of a more meaningful tribute to her. Thank you for continuing to teach and inspire us in new ways!
Posted by: John Cipollini | November 12th, 2008 at 12:15 pm
Martha...a beautiful speech! I am a 60-something who is inspired by you to age healthfully and graciously; this is the time to do just that! Lovely that you are a great spokeswoman for the elderly and i am sure the Centre is a great source of pride for you. It's wonderful to see so many caring people come together to help in fundraising for a most worthwhile endeavour.
Posted by: Sherey | November 12th, 2008 at 2:27 pm
Dreamer to Doer You Are!
Congratulations to you and your well
remembered mother for accomplishment after accomplishment!.................................
.....................................A & the W's
Posted by: andrea and the weimaraners | November 12th, 2008 at 2:53 pm
...gee whiz, where do I begin?...I could go on-n-on on this day's blog! (I'm a day late but had to return to it today as I didn't get a chance to post yesterday).
This blog is so inspiring, Martha! My heart is palpitating with excitement, seeing this event as if I were there in person. It is wonderful - absolutely wonderful - to see your vast support system there with you, "cheering you on", so to speak... Your mother would be proud! It is no secret that we loved her! She became part of our hearts as you graciously shared her with us, and we got to know her. (And) you know what?!...I see her in you, sometimes...she did have the ability to laugh (and sometimes at herself), and when you laugh on your show, I hear her voice in yours sometimes.
The estimated value of your mother's legacy? (YOU!) - PRICELESS indeed!
My heart is full!
=^..^=
Posted by: Cindy Bricker | November 13th, 2008 at 5:43 am
You look sooooooo pretty on this sparkly dress..... I love you martha.....
Posted by: Dalva Rocha | November 13th, 2008 at 9:43 am
i love u Martha, you are the best. i watch u every day. keep up the good cookin. and i love the things u make, love your babys too [your dogs]lol
Posted by: JoAnn | November 29th, 2008 at 6:09 pm
Dear Martha,
Yesterday I was hitting some serves (playing tennis by myself) in a public park and saw a young man having lunch with an older gentleman on a picnic table under a tree. It made me think about how much quality time I don't spend with my grandparents since they live so far away.
Aside from the neglect they must feel, I would argue that we as a generation stand to lose something. We lose a sense of continuity with the past, appreciation for the present, and perspective on the future. This perspective is critical in our current economic situation.
In these difficult times, there is so much to learn from our grandparents. In your speech you talk about the need for the elderly to stay engaged, but young people likewise should engage with the elderly. We have so much to share with eachother not just in terms of care but also in terms of mutual curiosity.
I was thinking you should run a social networking site to connect young professionals to people in assisted living via a local exchange. Then I thought, technology isn't the barrier. It's a sense of commitment. Just like the two people having lunch together all it takes is a little coordination.
Thanks for all you do, I have watched your show since I was 9 years old and support all your causes, brands, and best practices.
Best,
Pauline
Posted by: Pauline Pelletier | December 3rd, 2008 at 4:57 am
My seven year old daughter loved your trip to the Yucatan Peninsula!!!! She wants to go and live in a grass home.
Posted by: AndreeHope Robert | January 5th, 2009 at 10:05 am
I love your blog in general and have bought various products of yours since day one. I just used two of your bathsheets i bought last year for the first time. Always loved your sheets , but these towels shed like crazy and too late to return or exchange. Any ideas?
Posted by: valerie bitter | January 17th, 2009 at 6:34 pm
Dear Martha, I would like to thank you for this
most wonderful Center for Living,I had a best experience there ever in any doctor`s office.
I met this young woman doctor Dr. Ruth Spinner
she treated me so carefully and patiently with sympathy and understandingand knowledge.
I had a better experience in this doctor`s office as if I had been in a luxurious spa.
She called me at home even a few days later
telling me that I needed Vitamin D, gave me good advise about many different things, but
not forcing things on me to do or to take,
like they would do in other places.
I feel like that I have someone who cares about me now, looking after me so well, I am most grateful to her and mostly to you Martha.
I am sure that the Lord will bless you for your
contribution for taking care of the elderly in such wonderful way.
Thank you again
with appreciation and with love Judy Pappas
Posted by: Judy Pappas | April 1st, 2009 at 12:51 pm